Things I Love

I love to read and love to share. Here are some of my favorite books, quotes, and insights.

The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz

Be impeccable with your word.

Don't take anything personally.

Don't make assumptions.

Always do your best.

Processing vs Overthinking your Emotions (@therapyforwomen)

Processing your emotions starts with curiosity about what you're feeling; involves noticing the sensations you feel in your body; and offers yourself compassion and understanding.

Overthinking your emotions starts with judgement about your emotions; beating yourself up for feeling how you feel; and  repetitive thoughts.

Replace "What's wrong with me?" with "Why may I be feeling this way?" 

A Precious Human Life by the 14th Dalai Lama

"Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others; to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings. I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others. I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”

Henri Nouwen

"Did I offer peace today? Did I bring a smile to someone's face? Did I say words of healing? Did I let go of my anger and resentment? Did I forgive? Did I love? These are the real questions. I must trust that the little bit of love that I sow now will bear many fruits, here in this world and the life to come."

Jack Kornfield

"If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.""We do not have to improve ourselves; we just have to let go of what blocks our heart."

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus by John Gray, Ph.D.

READ IT!! 

"We mistakenly assume that if our partners love us they will react and behave in certain ways--the ways we react and behave when we love someone"

Anger and Judgement by Jake Woodward

"Anger: holding onto to how you think something is supposed to be. You’re denying how it is. It is expectations in your own mind creating your own hell. When you get frustrated at the way something happens, examine what you thought it should be. Your suffering is created by your own models of how you think the universe should be and your inability to allow it to be as it is."

 

"Judgement: when someone’s models don’t match up to yours. Let go of judgement, let go of the models of the world and how you think it should be."

Awake with Jake, episode 2

The Mastery of Love: A Practical Guide to the Art of Relationship by Don Miguel Ruiz

This book saved my marriage. Every word, sentence ,and paragraph resonated with me. It's a book that you will read over and over and learn something fantastic every time.